The Art of Savagery

*Cue Rihanna’s Needed Me*

DIDN’T THEY TELL YOU THAT I WAS A SAVAGE?????

The scene is set in a group chat titled ‘bad bitches’. Miss X, who will later be known as said savage referenced above, hits up the group chat to give them the latest update on her relations with bae, a.k.a poor unsuspecting guy who is trying his best to not only impress, but also express his feelings towards Miss X (see what I did there? 🙃). So Miss X goes on to tell the group chat about how ‘moist’, ‘soft’ and how much of a ‘pushover’ bae is and how after 5 months of him putting in his best efforts, wine’ing and dining, showing care & love etc. she plays him.  At their just concluded date, he had asked her to be his girlfriend and she said and I quote “ You’re nice and all but honestly not the type of guy I see myself in a relationship with”. The group chat goes wild. “You go girl!”, “Zammmnnnnn Zadddddyyyyyy”, “ I’m dead! *insert 167 of these 😂  emoji’s* ” and, of course, the king of all praises “ SAVAGE”.

Brethren, why?

Why is our generation so obsessed with the idea of being unemotional, cold hearted, manipulative and generally wretched towards one another? Why does everyone all of a sudden want to be quick to the punch when it comes to hurting others? The ironic thing is, deep down no one wants to be hurt by friends, partners or even strangers. Really and truly, whether its platonic or whether its romantic, everyone just wants to be loved . I know many people can argue that people build walls and develop tough skin due to past bad experiences of broken hearts and unrequited love and honestly that’s a fair argument. I think it’s fair to have walls or have tough skin, but it certainly isn’t okay to set out to ruin others and then revel in the carnage. It is cruel and sadistic, if you ask me. This doesn’t only apply to romantic relationships but our relationships with one another as a whole. Science has proven that human beings need intimacy to live a healthy life and no I don’t mean just physical intimacy (get ya head out of the gutter), I mean intimacy as in closeness and familiarity with one another. So, if you are set out to be a savage to every and everyone, including those girls in your bad bitches group chat if they so much as look at you wrong, then how do we achieve that?

In fear of sounding too corny, I’ll go ahead and say the world is such a messed up place. I mean we have a looney toon running for the most powerful office in the world, we really don’t need all this extra wretchedness and unnecessary cruelty. Everyone wants to hype about “good vibes only”, but you as a person, your own vibe is bad, how does that work? Are the days of spreading positivity, love and really just common human decency, far gone? Were they ever here? This is just my own two cents based on how I see the world, but I do want to know, what do you guys feel about this whole savage thing? Is it all bravado? Is pop culture to blame for promoting it? Is Rihanna to blame? Share your thoughts with me!

Disclaimer

*The little excerpt above is purely for context/ comedic purposes. This behavior is not specific to any one gender and no, I do not by any means believe that wine’ing and dining someone gives you a right to their attention, affection or love. Also, there is nothing wrong with a person not meeting your relationship standards, just don’t wait 5 months to tell them 🙃 *

Btw I was serious when I said share your thoughts with me so PLEASE SHARE them 🙃

Thank you for reading 💖💖💖

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28 thoughts on “The Art of Savagery

  1. yes girl, spot on! I do agree that everyone tries to be be “stonecold” these days; male and female. Like you said, some of it does have to do with past experiences. No one wants to play themselves twice! Which ruins the sweet sweet love we could enjoying if we could just relax and express how we really feel! ++ I do feel pop culture is somewhat to blame, not completely but deff somewhat of it.
    Love that excerpt btw 😂 Can’t wait to read your other materials 😁💃🏽

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    1. Very true that no one wants to play themselves twice! I hate you for saying “sweet sweet love” lol. But you are right! Promoting it in songs and movies and TV shows like Dayo said is the role pop culture and the media plays in promoting it! Thank you Obzzz :* :*

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  2. Yes. Just, yes! Talk about the gospel truth! I want so many of my friends to read this. How we’ll have a lot to talk about! Yeah it’s so crazy how we are living in this world so numb to our emotions. I mean its one thing to have physical or spiritual pain, even financial pain, then I feel like emotional numbness sprawls from there. It’s quite interesting but ultimately very disheartening to have to talk about this, especially when our greatest assests for this generation is promoting the same thing we’re trying to run away from. And I’m guilty of this myself.
    I guess my question for you ohsopristine is as a generation, where do we go from here? And how are to stop this mentality?

    Great piece!

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    1. Absolutely right, promoting the same thing we are running away from. Very ironic indeed! Like someone who DM’d me on instagram said today, all we can do is to keep talking about these things and hopefully people can be honest with themselves to see how unhealthy such behavior is!. Thanks Toby :*

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  3. I love this!
    It is well written and so true!
    It’s probably a defence mechanism to come across “stone cold” to people. Nobody wants to be vulnerable or emotional to the wrong person so they are not taken advantage of.
    It’s actually sad. It has got to a point that if you’re nice to someone, they think you want something from them or begging to be their friend. You can’t just be nice cause you want to be nice.
    I can’t wait to your next post. Keep it up 😘 💜

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  4. Honestly, I don’t understand why this whole “savage” thing is applauded, ESPECIALLY when it doesn’t come naturally. Bc then, it’s like you’re forcing yourself to be mean on purpose so that people can hail you 😂 This reminds me of people on Twitter that post screenshots of their curving DMs that we didn’t ask for. It’s especially annoying when the manner of the curve is 1) too extra/unwarranted for 2) on top of being extra, it’s now not even hot. I feel like it’s more of an ego thing & just an avenue of seeking (unnecessary) affirmation. I do feel you on the being hurt from past experiences thing though. It’s not easy to just recover and let people in again/some people find it therapeutic to inflict the hurt they felt on others. But all in all, it’s unhealthy! Looking forward to more posts, girl!

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    1. YESS!! Those people who post screenshots of them curving people or how many unread messages they have. Such a huge sign of insecurity and a big turn off. Dayo mentioned how most people doing all this savagery are insecure and i agree fully, they just want validation and affirmation from their friends to make them feel better. Its unhealthy and a tad bit pathetic! Thank you love :*

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  5. Preaaaach girl. I honestly agree with you! It’s sad how everyone tries to be unemotional nowadays. Showing emotion is not a bad thing, neither is it a form of weakness. Like you said, It won’t work if everyone keeps saying “good vibes only” “GVO” up and down the place & end up giving bad vibes. Where would the good vibes now come from? 😭 You can tell them how you truly feel if you’re not feeling it oh but don’t wait till 5 months now haba. Especially when the person has put in so much effort. Fine & good, you can protect your heart from extra damage but don’t destroy someone else’s. That’s just bad bele behavior for real. 🙄

    Good job gurlll 👏🏾👏🏾Can’t wait to read the next one!

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  6. Preaaaach girl. I honestly agree with you! It’s sad how everyone tries to be unemotional nowadays. Showing emotion is not a bad thing, neither is it a form of weakness. Like you said, It won’t work if everyone keeps saying “good vibes only” “GVO” up & down the place & end up giving bad vibes. Where would the good vibes now come from? 😭 You can tell them how you truly feel if you’re not feeling it oh but don’t wait till 5 months now. Come on. Especially when the person has put in so much effort. Fine & good, you can protect your heart from extra damage but don’t destroy someone else’s. That’s just bad bele behavior for real. 🙄

    Good job gurlll 👏🏾👏🏾Can’t wait to read the next one!

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  7. I love this!
    It is well written and so true.
    It is probably a defence mechanism to come across ‘stone cold’ to other people. Nobody wants to be emotional and vulnerable to the wrong person so they are not taking advantage of. People constantly remind themselves that there are real insecure savages (monsters) in the world that will take advantage of you to feel better about themselves or for entertainment.
    Also, it has got to a point where people think you want something from them or want to be their friend if you’re nice/intimate (close and familiar) with them. You can’t just be nice cause you want to be nice. It is sad. Therfore people try to respect themselves by minding their own business or becoming ‘stone cold’, so people will respect them.
    Btw I agree with Obz, pop culture probably does have an influence on savagery behaviour. You see media encouraging savegery behaviour through the main characters in tv show/movies, lyrics of music, etc.

    Anyways the group chat scene was hilarious 😂😂😂
    keep up the good work and I can’t wait for more of your posts 💜😁

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    1. Youre absolutely right Dayo! I think the whole savagery thing stems from insecurity tbh. And for sure people are more cynical and less trusting of new people, which is only natural but at some point that trust has to be there for the friendship to be strengthened. I was laughing while writing the group chat scene, but its so so accurate! Thanks you Doll :*

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  8. Preeeaaaccchhh!!! Like who hurt us as a generation? Why do we praise those that are content with being emotionally disconnected? Such a good piece, can’t wait to read more!!

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  9. I love this! I think your title sums it up though. There is an understood art to savagery, an art to war, and these seem to be the skills people seek today. It’s far easier to be self-preservative and somewhat of a savage than it is to express kindness or “basic human decency” which really isn’t basic at all. For a lot of people it takes more to be open, or unguarded than to be jaded. It happens, what sucks is when it results in making other people jaded. It’s like poisoning a well if you ask me

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  10. I love this! I think your title sums it up though. There is an understood art to savagery, an art to war, and these seem to be the skills people seek today. It’s far easier to be self-preservative and somewhat of a savage than it is to express kindness or “basic human decency” which really isn’t basic at all. For a lot of people it takes more to be open, or unguarded than to be jaded. It happens, what sucks is when it results in making other people jaded. It’s like poisoning a well if you ask me. Imagine if this guy goes on to do the same to someone she knows, all of a sudden he “ain’t sh!t” 😅

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    1. Your absolutely right! Its definitely is hard to open up to people, especially in this day of social media and screenshots! One has to be cautious, makes me wonder how our generation will fair when it comes time to get married or if we will even do away with the institution of marriage

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  11. I agree with the fact that most people these days try to act so hardcore. Yes some of it come from terrible experiences with past relationships. Some just do it so they can brag to their friends that they shut down a person that was genuinely interested in them. This also factors in to why people don’t tell people how they feel about them because they would rather keep the feelings to themselves than to get shutdown by a ‘Savage’

    I’m looking forward to more posts. This was very good.

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  12. Yes! I think it’s fair for you to not want a relationship from someone, so far as you’re clear and honest about it, but it tends to be the case (at least nowadays) that males/females make such a fuss over their “emotional unavailability” and then end up turning certain situations into an embarrassing ordeal for the other person. Just unnecessary, make your intentions clear and keep it moving.

    Awesome piece Ayo!

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  13. Love this post honestly! And it’s so apt for today. I feel like people romanticize the whole ‘savagery’ thing. Like you really don’t gain anything from being unnecessarily mean to people (I mean except they do deserve it then by all means go all Rihanna on them). But I do agree with you – a little decency and positivity goes a long way to be honest

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    1. Thank you Ene ! You expressed it perfectly , romanticizing the idea of savagery. It’s really strange indeed . Some said people wear it as some sort of title or medal. Very very weird indeed

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