*Cue Rihanna’s Needed Me*
DIDN’T THEY TELL YOU THAT I WAS A SAVAGE?????
The scene is set in a group chat titled ‘bad bitches’. Miss X, who will later be known as said savage referenced above, hits up the group chat to give them the latest update on her relations with bae, a.k.a poor unsuspecting guy who is trying his best to not only impress, but also express his feelings towards Miss X (see what I did there? 🙃). So Miss X goes on to tell the group chat about how ‘moist’, ‘soft’ and how much of a ‘pushover’ bae is and how after 5 months of him putting in his best efforts, wine’ing and dining, showing care & love etc. she plays him. At their just concluded date, he had asked her to be his girlfriend and she said and I quote “ You’re nice and all but honestly not the type of guy I see myself in a relationship with”. The group chat goes wild. “You go girl!”, “Zammmnnnnn Zadddddyyyyyy”, “ I’m dead! *insert 167 of these 😂 emoji’s* ” and, of course, the king of all praises “ SAVAGE”.
Why is our generation so obsessed with the idea of being unemotional, cold hearted, manipulative and generally wretched towards one another? Why does everyone all of a sudden want to be quick to the punch when it comes to hurting others? The ironic thing is, deep down no one wants to be hurt by friends, partners or even strangers. Really and truly, whether its platonic or whether its romantic, everyone just wants to be loved . I know many people can argue that people build walls and develop tough skin due to past bad experiences of broken hearts and unrequited love and honestly that’s a fair argument. I think it’s fair to have walls or have tough skin, but it certainly isn’t okay to set out to ruin others and then revel in the carnage. It is cruel and sadistic, if you ask me. This doesn’t only apply to romantic relationships but our relationships with one another as a whole. Science has proven that human beings need intimacy to live a healthy life and no I don’t mean just physical intimacy (get ya head out of the gutter), I mean intimacy as in closeness and familiarity with one another. So, if you are set out to be a savage to every and everyone, including those girls in your bad bitches group chat if they so much as look at you wrong, then how do we achieve that?
In fear of sounding too corny, I’ll go ahead and say the world is such a messed up place. I mean we have a looney toon running for the most powerful office in the world, we really don’t need all this extra wretchedness and unnecessary cruelty. Everyone wants to hype about “good vibes only”, but you as a person, your own vibe is bad, how does that work? Are the days of spreading positivity, love and really just common human decency, far gone? Were they ever here? This is just my own two cents based on how I see the world, but I do want to know, what do you guys feel about this whole savage thing? Is it all bravado? Is pop culture to blame for promoting it? Is Rihanna to blame? Share your thoughts with me!
*The little excerpt above is purely for context/ comedic purposes. This behavior is not specific to any one gender and no, I do not by any means believe that wine’ing and dining someone gives you a right to their attention, affection or love. Also, there is nothing wrong with a person not meeting your relationship standards, just don’t wait 5 months to tell them 🙃 *
Btw I was serious when I said share your thoughts with me so PLEASE SHARE them 🙃
Thank you for reading 💖💖💖